Whose Opinion Matters Most in the Interview Yours.

Whose Opinion Matters Most in the Interview Yours. Youve clearly identifiedthe type of company youd love to work for, the kinds of projects youd like to be involved with, and the impact youd like to make. Youve tweaked your resume, networked your heart out, and sent your strategically crafted cover lettersto the right people.And nowyou have the vorstellungsgesprchGulp. For fruchtwein people, interviewing is nerve-wracking. We so badly want to say and do the right things to secure the results we want. Its crucial we appear confident, professional, present, and able to articulate our experiences and visions.However, becoming consumedby fears of what others may think of us is not helpful or fun. So, during the interview process, whose opinion matters most? Is it your potential bosss? Your prospective coworkers? The HR persons?The truth is, its yours.Yes, your opinions about yourself, your skills, your problem-solving abilities, your work, and your life e xperiences are of immense importance. These beliefs impact your presence, body language, and tone. Whether you are simply walking into the lobby or sitting in a conference room chatting about your previous jobs, your physicality and mindset are key to presenting the most dynamic and confident version of yourself.How do you become your own biggest groupie? Here are some strategies for your body, mind, and heart.Body Language Go BigWhen something important is at stake, we tend to respond by either expanding or contracting. We can rise to the challenge physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, or we can shrink back in all of those ways.Lets play with contracting and expanding physically. Wherever you are right now, make yourself physically smaller. Take up less space. Its harder to breathe, right? Next, become aware of the thoughts that arise when you make this choice to be small. Does your confidence increase or decrease?Now, take up more space. Keep your body and arms open . Notice how much easier it is to breathe? Become aware of your thoughts and feelings. Ill bet you are feeling more positive and confident.Taking up more space not only builds inner confidence, but it also results in more confident body language. The words you say certainly matter and please invest time in practicing what you would like to share during the interview but make no mistake. Your body language also communicates volumes.Just as you choose an outfit that makes sense for the job you are interviewing for, you must also choose a physicality that serves you. This way, when you share a story about how you solved a marketing dilemma, led a team to victory, or rescued a project from disaster, your physicality will beconsistent with your message. Being able to take deeper breaths as a result ofyour posture will also enable you to calm yourself more easily and better support your vocal quality.For more expert career advice, check out the latest issue of Recruiter.com MagazineMind set Affects BodyLets shift from physical choices to matters of mindset.Notice how your body reacts as you read the following statements that mayreflect your thoughts before an interviewWhat if they ask me a question I dont know the answer to? I have to know everything. I have to be perfect. I have to say all of the right things. What do I possibly have to offer? OH NOWas your body leaping for joy in excited anticipation? I doubt it. mora likely, you tightened up and got smaller. These types of statements lead to tension and constriction, which make it harder for you to breathe deeply, to be your full size, to be fully seen, to be fully heard, or to be fully present.Now, lets try a thought that I loveI GOT THISThink this to yourself or say it out loud. Notice how this makes you feel in your body. How does it make you feel emotionally? How is your breathing? Now, compare this to how you feel when you think or sayIm not ready for this.Notice how this makes you feel in your body. How do you feel emotionally? How is your breathing?No matter which statement you focus on, your resume, skills, and experience wont change but your framework and attitude will.Facing the UnknownWhen you interview for a new role in a different work environment or enter a new industry, you come face to face with the unknown. This may not be an appealing idea, but its certainly nothing you havent encountered before. I promise that if you are reading this article, you have faced the unknown before and found your way through it.Have you abfallen in love and/or gotten married? Broken up or gotten divorced? Moved to a new neighborhood or school? Graduated? Had a child? Faced challenges regarding an aging parentin ill health? Then yes, you have faced and successfully navigated through the unknown. And you are still standing. You figured it out. You Googled. You asked trusted friends, family, and experts for their insights. You thought it through. You triednew things.To navigate the unknown, you needed to be flexible and adaptable. You needed toprioritize and reprioritize. Theres no reason you cant bring those same skills to new challenges. So, heres what you can say to any fearful questions and thoughts fueled by your doubts Ill figure it out. Ive faced other complex situations, and I can face this one.On a related note, if you were on the other side of the interview table, whom would you rather hire a person who thinks they know everything, or a person who is open, curious, and eager to learn new things?Be a Go-GiverLets stop to contemplate why you are going to that interview in the first place. Think of all you hope to get out of it a job, money, benefits, security, experience, knowledge, respect, opportunity, and/or the perspektive to be part of a team. How does it feel in your body to focus on all you hope to get?Those are all wonderful things to strive for, but lets experiment with a subtle shift. Instead of focusing on what you hope to get, try thinking about what yo u want to share while in the interview your knowledge, your wisdom, your insights, your skills, your passion, your heart, your enthusiasm, your desire to collaborate and make an impact, etc.If this change in focus helps you to feel more empowered, more expansive, and like a potential collaborator looking for the right fit, great Make your own list of what you would like to share and look for ways to weave it into your interview answers and questions.Here are some other positive thoughts to contemplate. landsee which ones resonate with you, make your body happy, and increase your confidenceI have faced the unknown many times.I have had many experiences, and I have a lot to offer.I am here to see if this opportunity or this environment is a good fit for me.I am here to give and share my skills, passion, and knowledge.I am excited to be curious.I am excited to be present.The next time you are preparing for an interview, be your own biggest fan. Choose body language that is open and exp ansive. Commit to a mindset that brings excitement and curiosity to the interview adventure, rather than fear and dread. While you prepare, focus on what you are able to give to the experience. You got thisAmanda Hennessey is the founder ofBoston Public Speaking,San Diego Public Speaking, andBoston Acting Classesand the author ofYour Guide to Public Speaking Build Your Confidence, Find Your Voice, and Inspire Your Audience.